SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE // Sunday, August 10, 2025 // Jeff Hines, Lead Pastor
/Sunday, July 27, 2025
Real People
Living in the Real World
Loving the Real God
Speaking the Truth in Love
When Someone You Love
is Making Bad Decisions
We must be aware of the Exploitation of Christian compassion
Ephesians 4: 11 - 15 (NLT)
Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do his work and build up the church, the body of Christ. 13 This will continue until we all come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God’s Son that we will be mature in the Lord, measuring up to the full and complete standard of Christ. 14 Then we will no longer be immature like children. We won’t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching. We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth. 15 Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
Distorted Views that Prevent us from Speaking the Truth in Love
1. A distorted view of grace and love.
Proverbs 28: 23 (NASB)
One who rebukes a person will afterward find more favor than one who flatters with the tongue.
2. A distorted view of the Christian life.
Ephesians 4: 25 (ESV)
Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.
3. A distorted view of the bible.
Matthew 7: 1 – 3 (NLT)
“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. 2 For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. 3 “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own?
Why is it so hard to confront someone I love?
Because it’s hard!
Why should we speak the truth in love?
1. It follows the example of Jesus.
2. Love requires it.
1 Corinthians 13: 6 (ESV)
Love… does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
3. It produces growth.
Ephesians 4: 15 (NLT)
…we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.
4. Because the stakes are high.
James 5: 19 & 20 (NLT)
My dear brothers and sisters, if someone among you wanders away from the truth and is brought back, 20 you can be sure that whoever brings the sinner back from wandering will save that person from death and bring about the forgiveness of many sins.
I must care more about their relationship with God than their response to me.
Am I willing to be misunderstood or even rejected?
Practical steps to speaking the truth in love:
1. Be clear about the issue.
Is the issue unbiblical, unwise, or unimportant?
2. Discern if you are the one to address the issue.
Proverbs 27:6 (NLT)
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
3. Pray that they will be open and receptive.
4. Address the issue in person.
5. Be gentle and wise in your approach but be truthful.
Galatians 6: 1 (NLT)
Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.
6. Realize you may not be able to save them from the consequences of their actions.
7. Assure them of God’s forgiveness.
1 John 1: 9 (ESV)
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins
and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.